Today’s wisdom is the universal “magical” problem-solving sentence. It is word-switch number 5 of the seven Mind-freeing, Life-changing, World-saving word-switches. It turns on the action pathways that are most likely to lead to constructive outcomes.
Learn and regularly apply this simple sentence:
Given this situation, what is most likely to make things better for me AND you (or us and them), for now AND the future?
This word-switch is effective because it applies common sense wisdom to create intelligent solutions to new problems created by new knowledge. It corrects traditional action pathways that are no longer effective or have become dangerous. Common sense wisdom is universal, discoverable by all tribes, and validated by consensus. Common sense wisdom doesn’t favor one side at the expense of another. While not actually “magic,” it works so effectively it seems like magic.
This problem-solving word-switch is universally effective because it corrects the two most common causes of resentment and harmful confrontation. First, it emphasizes a “win/win” outcome in which all parties walk away with a sense of accomplishment. Our prevalent manner of thinking still relies on the perspectives of instinct and tradition. Instinct and our dominant tradition emphasize that I or we “win” without consideration of the outcome to “not me or not us.” The second important wisdom contained in this problem-solving word-switch is envisioning the long-term outcome. We are naturally impatient. Our early way of thinking focuses on short term gain at the expense of long term pain.
This simple problem-solving word-switch will create dramatic benefits by quickly shutting down the most common mental response that gets us into difficulty, what I call the “blaming” response. Once you know the blaming formula, it is easy to recognize. It goes as follows:
He (she, they, it, I, God, etc.) did what he shouldn’t have done (didn’t do what he should have done) and therefore deserves punishment.
Blaming others or blaming ourselves, what we call “guilt,” is a non-productive skill that becomes habitual in our way of thinking very early. As we regularly use the universal problem-solving sentence, say goodbye to blaming and guilt. Good riddance! Regular use of the universal problem-solving sentence will replace other common pathways first imbedded in our mind that are no longer productive. These include procrastination, avoidance, apathy, worry, depression, substance abuse, phobic anxiety, and stress related physical pain. Consistent use of the “magical” problem-solving word-switch and self-endorsement word-switches will cause the negative mental response pathways to atrophy from disuse.
Though not “magic,” the universal problem-solving sentence consistently works so well it will seem like magic. Let me repeat it: Given this situation, what is most likely to make things better for me AND you (or us and them), for now AND in the future?
This sentence gets results without ascribing blame.