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     Of these three sources of love – nature, nurture, and our self, this stren focuses on the “mature love” we our self create.  Love is not limited in quantity; you can make a little, a lot, or virtually none.  A parent with eight children is not restricted to giving 1/8th of the love that a one-child parent can offer to each child.  Indeed, each of those eight children might receive more love than an only child.  Likewise, you may love (and/or hate) an “other,” many “others,” and you may love your self.  Giving love to one person doesn’t mean you love another any less.
     
     Mature love is a willing gift – you have great freedom to generate love and decide where and how you direct it.  Your loving may be short or long-lived.  Your loving may continue, cease, increase, or decrease, in the same manner a factory may increase, decrease, or cease production; and like the factory, you may even change what it is producing.  Indeed, these strens on love propose that you review all of the products coming from your energy factory and increase your loving capacity. 

    What thoughts do you hold about love?  How do your views agree and differ?  Most religions and ethical programs teach to love your neighbor as yourself.  What does this mean to you?  I prefer the wording: “Learn to love yourself so you have love in abundance to give to others.”  It is quite difficult to give away what we don’t have.  Mature love is created in our cerebral cortex when we free our will to act with common sense and intention; we create symbols that magically transform natural energy to the energy of love that we can gift to others.  A valentine’s card that featured our cerebral cortex would be more appropriate than one with a heart.

Qualities of a lover:

    Pure love requires the maturity to enjoy giving without strings. There is satisfaction in the act of giving even when love is not returned.  The gift of love is a complete act in itself.  The lover has learned to love him/her self and is skillfully self-endorsing.  When you fill your cup and it overflows, you then have the greatest capacity to give.  The person who gives with an unfilled cup often resents the receiver when their response is less than expected or hoped for.  The love-maker skillfully uses energy to enrich others, and the world we share...and experiences joy in so doing.  He/she has become aware of his/her natural tendency to blame, and redirects this energy in a positive direction.

     The lover may have very limited or immense capacity.  Most religions and cultures have examples of infinite lovers, for example, Jesus.  While some strive to be an infinite lover, reality suggests that doing your “reasonable best” is a practical, attainable goal.  To me, this means allocating an appropriate amount of our energy to continued growth of our love creation capacity and being humble enough to accept our human limitations and fallibility.  
  
    In my observation, many people create and feel their love but have great difficulty expressing it.  It is as though we have a rationed quantity of love and store it for when we really need it.  The words “I love you” are rarely expressed.   Instead, we devise really obtuse ways to express love in a manner that won’t hurt if the loved one doesn’t “properly” receive our love.  In a recent popular sitcom, Raymond is asked by his wife why he never says “I love you.”  Though he quite obviously does, he chokes on the word and finally says, “I show you with my eyes.”